What is a Relationship?
Whenever you hear the word relationship what comes to your mind? Most of the time the thoughts that immediately come to mind are those of romantic relationships with someone that you love dearly. To be honest, I am one of those people. But why is that? I think our culture has shaped our minds into making romantic relationships the highest level that one can reach in all relationships on this earth! You know, the relationship that everyone can see and compliment by liking and commenting on your pictures on Facebook or tweeting your 140 character stance on what true love is.
But let’s break down the word relationship to see WHAT a relationship actually is. If you were to do a Google search for the “definition of relationship” you will see: (1) the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected, (2) the state of being connected by blood or marriage, (3) the way in which two or more people or organizations regard and behave toward each other. Let’s go to the origin of the word to get the full context of this complex, yet simple, word: relationship.
The word relationship comes from the Latin dialect. There are approximately 13 Latin words with similar core definitions of connection, blood relation, kinsman, entering into battle, agreement-- I will speak on a couple of these words in posts to come. Of course, the thirteen words depend on the context it is being used in which would determine which word flows within the sentence. All in all relationship is a noun. Being in school --and some of us 25 and up have seen on Schoolhouse Rock-- we have learned that a noun is a person, place or thing. With that being said, it is safe to say that you can have a relationship with a person, a place, and a thing and I can tell you that we ALL do! Whether it is with our friends, family, loved ones, a favorite chair or coffee house -- the relationship is there!
An aspect that I love about relationships is it really presents a mirror to you on what’s inside of you. They show you what your world sees when looking at and interacting with you. Google’s definition says that it’s “...the state of being connected”. If you replace the word “state” with its definition then it reads a bit more strongly: “...the particular circumstances affecting the way in which people live or work, especially with regard to their safety or well-being being connected”. That’s what a relationship is. It is the core of how people live their lives on a day to day basis. It determines what people deem as the qualifications of the need of protection, security, vulnerability and complete trust with no reservations.
What I love about God is He longs to have a relationship with us. A relationship so deep that He came down to see what was affecting us in how we live. With regard to our safety and well-being, He sent Jesus down here on this earth more than 2000 years ago. Hebrews 4:14 tells us that He felt our infirmities and sinned not. He loved us so much that He gave us a blueprint on how to even walk through the narrow gate and not the broad path to destruction (Matt 7:13-14). Since we have Christ living within us we have a longing to have a greater relationship with Him as we had while He knitted us in our mother’s womb (Ps.139). Jesus longed for a relationship with us so much so that He stood in the gap to be the ultimate sacrifice and died the death that we could not die for ourselves. The placement of Jesus’ arms on the cross shows us the qualifications of relationships: open and outstretched. The blood that atoned for our sins and ripped any kind of separation for us, His sons and daughters, to come with a repentant heart to Him for ourselves.
Relationships require levels of sacrifice. Relationships require levels of service. Relationships require the reflection of the reason it is put together. Can you think of those who you are in a relationship with and see the sacrifice, service, and reflection of its purpose within you?
Let us continue to walk on this #JourneyInLove?