Merriam-Webster says the definition of patience is the capacity, habit, or fact of being patient. To be patient is bearing pains or trials calmly without complaint; manifesting forbearance under provocation or strain; steadfast despite opposition, difficulty, or adversity.
At times, this generation seems like the poster child of being impatient. We have information at the very tips of our fingers. As quick as a question is asked the answer can be provided within seconds. Not too many in our generation like to slave over the stove and fold love into homemade mashed potatoes and get their hands dirty while kneading seasonings into ground meat. We settle for microwavable pizzas and tv dinners and forsake the dinner table on each appropriate night for Scandal, How to Get Away With Murder, Quantico, Walking Dead, Black-ish, Once Upon A Time and the like.
We don’t like to wait for anything really because, to us, waiting equals unnecessary pain and frustrations when WE ourselves can relieve the pain and easy the frustration with our own power.
When it comes to love -- we think the same way. We want the ability to hold love yet forgo the pain and trials that calmly come with every ounce that we have been stretched to hold. In this generation, not a lot of people are willing to be patient enough for love to mature within someone as they walk until Christ is formed (Gal 4:12-20)-- let alone let love mature within themselves first and THEN give it to someone else.
We are quick to cut people off, complain, cast judgement and not stand when adversity hits them for multiple reasons. To be honest, it IS hard to stand with anyone who has hurt us to the core. Those seem to be the easiest times to end relationships -- rather it is friendships or romantic relationships. We do not want to keep getting our hands dirty with people because it can cost us our reputation, our comfort, and most of all, longsuffering and our FIRST opinion about a matter.
Sometimes only love is the only component that can cover our first opinion about what we see and hear about someone especially if they are close to us. 1 Corinthians 13:4 says, love is patient….on the surface it means what Weber says: bears the pains or trials calmly without complaint; manifesting forbearance under provocation or strain; steadfast despite opposition, difficulty, or adversity. Jesus is the perfect example of patience down to Him hanging on the cross---patiently and without complaint.
Are you striving to obtain that level of patience in your love walk? Where your patience suffers long without complaint but with true joy that you have been chosen out of everyone else to bear such weight? What an honor and a privilege it is to be hand selected to have that type of strength within the patience woven within your very life. I am personally grateful for patience because it has caused me to slow down to give myself and others grace. Without it, I know my heart would be really stoney and judgemental. I had to give myself patience in working the principles of God and also give myself the grace to manifest forbearance under provocation or strain; steadfast despite opposition, difficulty, or adversity---true patience.