I was sitting and thinking about how people get engaged in various things and even how they get engaged to another person. Somehow my mind traveled to an abyss within my own mind and I started to think about how we engage in various things which cause us to get engaged TO another. Before I get too far ahead of myself, the etymology of engage means: to pledge (something, as security for payment), to bind (by promise or oath); "under pledge" -- en "in" + gage "pledge"; to employ, secure for aid, employment or use"; binding as by a pledge; enter into combat or contest with; promise to marry.
There are many things that we have pledged ourselves to, some being healthy and others not so much. We have literally given a piece of ourselves over in order to fulfill this want (not need) and to scratch this itch. These are the things that we first do in secret because we do not know if it’s ok - let alone if people will still look at us the same if we were to do this in public. It can be as simple as talking to someone behind closed doors who we know we are “not necessarily suppose to be talking to” especially on “that level”. But as we start to do this more behind closed doors and in the cloak of darkness, we start to lend pieces of ourselves, our heart, our emotions, our focus, our attention over as a form of payment. It’s now an exchange for the expectation that it will provide a level of protection, security, and validation. When these things are given back in return (so we think) then our pledge or engagement needs no more darkness; we can walk hand in hand into the light and make a declaration to the word walking hand in hand together in a boldness that only unity can provide.
Case in point! Going back to the defense mechanisms within relationships. I have seen a lot of young ladies of all ages allow their covenant with their hurt and past pain dictate how they view men across the board, let alone relationships with other women. They make it clear as day their boundaries and how they want to be treated at the moment. People who have been hurt, not just young ladies, have engaged themselves to horrible attitudes, little character, no integrity, saltwater mouths, stoney and prideful hearts and judgemental filters. Covenants have been made time after time because at one point in time we have all sacrificed ourselves, our true feelings to cover up the root of the issue which most of the time is unresolved hurt.
Pain will come -- that is life and it wouldn’t be life without it. We will have to sharpen our shovels to get to the root to just about every issue in the presence of the Lord because life has solidified and packed a few inches -- if not feet, of dirt on the root issues. We know that in order to get the whole thing we have to go after the main root and not just the little skinny ones that still gets its nutrients from the big one.
In order to Dis-engage from these governing factors of our hearts and lives, we literally have to detach and separate ourselves from these actions and mindsets and do the opposite of them. Which is the definition of disengage - to do the opposite of; to detach.
Love keeps no record of wrong...and in the presence of the Lord, He shows us the path of life...to our total healing in Him and Him alone.